How to Be Confident While Loosing Weight!


Most people pack on the weight in college, they call it the freshman 15; I was different, in college I actually dropped weight and was the thinnest I’d ever been.  I didn’t eat any pork or red meat, my beverage of choice was water (excluding occasional alcoholic trysts) and I rarely ever ate any sweets (my nemesis food group). To top it all off, I lived off-campus and had to buy my own food, which meant my pickings were slim because I was poor.  Still, eating like that took my normally size twelve (at my smallest), to size 16 (at my heaviest) frame down to a very slim size 6-8.

Then I met my husband.  Before we got married we lived in an apartment less than two minutes from our favorite pizza spot and spent too many nights indulging in pizza and wings on our makeshift kitchen table (our bed) in our furniture-less place.

That’s when I noticed the weight creeping up, although at that point it still wasn’t too bad.  But, not long after came baby number 1, and in rapid succession, babies 2 through 5, which equaled an ongoing battle between me and the bulge.

One evening during this period I went to a jewelry party and was introduced to a friend of a friend.  She and I sparked up conversation in which I relayed to her some of my plans of sprucing myself up after I lost the weight.  “You’re beautiful now,” she interrupted, “why can’t you do it today?”  I was stunned by her honesty, but it definitely made me think.  I hadn’t even considered the idea of making myself look good at the size I was,  until I got to the weight I wanted to be.

Needless to say, I tried her advice—I hunkered down and actually bought some new clothes that fit my size.  I worked on learning to do new things with my hair, and I relegated my sweats and “bum” clothes to only in the house.

Now, does that mean that I magically learned to embrace my weight and feel good in the skin I was in—-ummmm……no!  I still felt fat and worked hard to get it off.  Even now, I’m still fighting the battle of the bulge and can say I’m currently about 40 pounds overweight.  Even still, at least I can say no matter what weight I’m at, I no longer allow myself to look homesless, because who needs to look both homeless and fat?

Here are Six Tips to Help You Overcome the “When I Loose Weight” Disease too:


  1. Pack away ALL clothes that truly don’t fit! I know, this one is hard.  We’ll keep that killer blazer in our closet for years just waiting to get back into it again.  Really its just taking up space for you to see what you really have to work with clothes-wise.   Put those pieces in a storage container and in a place where you can’t see it, then if you haven’t been able to get back into those things in a six months—at the longest, a year—give them away and let someone else be fly!
  2. Invest in some great shapewear and undergarments for right now! Think of it as a little boost until you get to where you want to be.   I hate shapewear, but they make all kinds now that aren’t like the death-traps your granny used to wear, plus they can give you just a little more polish to boost your confidence, not to mention a bra that fits goes a long way!
  3. Focus on the basics. If you are actively trying to loose weight and don’t want to spend a ton of money on what you hope will be a temporary wardrobe, just buy a few basic pieces—a great fitting pair of jeans, a quality pair of black leggings, a few form flattering tops and maybe a little black dress—you’ll be good to go.
  4. Make-up and Hair!I’ve always felt that a woman can just about look good in anything as long as her face and hair are on point.  Go to a stylist and get a re-vamp; Check out a make-up counter and ask for help, or, at the very least, there’s always You-Tube.
  5. Shoes and Accessories.These two things are like the icing on the cake.  The right accessories can enhance an otherwise plain outfit, in the same vain, the wrong shoe can throw off an otherwise quality look.  The right shoes and accessories just adds a finishing touch.
  6. Eliminate the Pressure. Go to stores and try on clothes, shoes and accessories when you have plenty of time to try things on and don’t wait for an upcoming engagement.  This eliminates the pressure to buy and helps to purchase only things you truly love.


4 Replies to “How to Be Confident While Loosing Weight!”

  1. I love this, encouraging women to embrace who they are while they work on becoming a better them! Great tips and btw you are beautiful sis!


    1. Thank you. It’s so hard to just love the skin you’re in at the time you’re in it–definitely a mental battle. I truly appreciate the compliment!


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